Office Routine–The Abnormal Workplace.
The topic above is a little misleading. I am not here to talk about the normal office routine which can be narrowed down to buying and selling of goods and services—labor market. Rather I am here to talk about the abnormal office routine which includes gossip, envy and ultimately strife.
Show me a workplace that is devoid of envy and strife and I will show you a workplace where only angels work but could such a workplace be seen here on earth? Abnormal office routine exists in practically every work place.
So, when you find yourself in front of the sword in your workplace—object of office bullying, for no reason at all, don’t fret, just understand that these mean people are like sand-paper. They scratch or rub you up the wrong way but eventually, you end up smooth and polished and the sand-paper is the one that is worn-out and ugly.
I am not going to suggest you go complaining to the boss or the cliché “if your environment can’t change you, change your environment” – nah, that’s a load of BS because I believe in thriving in whatever environment I find myself. I once told my friend that I thrive more in an environment where I am hated than where I am loved and she was like “what? Come again”—lol.
Below are ways to thrive in a not-so-friendly workplace.
BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE
Being the best you can be at work does not necessarily mean sweating more than others, working longer hours than others or trying harder to please the boss. Fact is it is advised that you make your accomplishments appear very effortless. Always think up new ideas to make yourself irreplaceable.
These ideas must always focus on increasing the customer base of the firm/company and not the usual “pull him/her down that I may get to the top” idea. Don’t be afraid to expand your horizon—extend the nets, who knows, you just might catch a very big fish that will blow even the minds of your haters. Take certain risks but not at the detriment of your job. No one ever got to anywhere amazing by playing it totally safe.
There is a line that goes “you are what you eat” and I couldn’t agree more. Not just eating healthy but go to the gym and train daily, go for a run or jug around the house—it is not about the price-tag on the dress but it’s about the body in the dress—the body gives the dress its’ value not the price. This will keep you in shape and you will feel extremely fire-up to do just about anything. Boost your confidence real good.
Please, get this straight, exuding confidence here does not imply you cat-walking all over the place—for ladies, or walking like Mr. Macho man up and down the hall every five minutes—lol. Doing those would only send a wrong message—arrogance, which would stir up more hatred and you don’t really want that.
You can exude confidence just by just smiling– a real smile. One of the things a smile can do is mask someone’s anxiety or nervousness and it is understandable if you feel a little nervous in a not-so-friendly workplace.
Another way to exude confidence is by making eye contacts with people and when your eyes meet theirs, do not squirm, just casually look away.
BE MORE MYSTERIOUS THAN SECRETIVE
A mysterious person is that person who makes people keep asking the same question for which they have received a thousand answers. His answer to every question especially the sensitive ones are though close to the truth but totally vague. Mysterious person do not try so hard to keep their dealings away from the public eye rather they put them all out there but in absolute disguise thereby attracting very less attention to them. Secretive people on the other hand tend to hide even the most irrelevant of things and consequently attract a lot of unwanted attention to them.
Mysterious people arouse curiosity which is akin to admiration whereas secretive people arouse suspicion.
The thing about human beings is that once they start digging for the “truth” they don’t stop at the so-called truth, they tend to continue digging until they dig up the reasons behind the “truth” which in most cases are even more mind-blowing than the “truth”. The last thing you want is your co-workers ganging up on you to dig up secrete about you. instead put it out there but in a much disguised manner.
SHOW SOME LOVE
Yes! It is a command to love your haters, not an option. Why do I have to love my haters? You may ask, simple—Power. It is worthy of note that you don’t get past people as long as you try to get even with them.
A lot of people believe that the opposite of love is hate but it is not. It takes a lot of energy to hate on someone and no sane person will invest all that energy into something that they know is not worth it. What I’m trying to say here in essence is that hate is akin to love. The opposite of love is indifference not hate.
consequently, if your co-worker(s) doesn’t mind dissipating all that energy on trash-talking you or hating on you then believe me when i say that they are not real haters instead they ‘coded’ admirers huh? yeah, that’s right. lol
Now that you know your so-called haters does not really hate you but are just distant admirers, why can’t you be the bigger person by showing them some love. The world would be a much better place when we begin to see our so-called haters through the eyes of love.
HiExtenters: Do you think that office strife is a menace that needs to stop? leave your thoughts below in the comments section.