5 Indirect Ways To Give Your Ex A Shout-out.
A relationship breakup is hard to handle no matter how tough you are. Because it has nothing to do with your strength as a person, but is has everything to do with a bond or connection that your heart has formed with another heart. In other words, it is a matter of the heart. This is the reason why you see people whom you consider very tough becoming doormats in their relationships. Perhaps they are tough characters alright but only outside their love life. But when it comes to people they are in love with, they act like puppets because they love too hard.
Our ability to move on fast after breakup is dependent on the things we do post breakup. One of the things we do immediately after a breakup is rush off to our social media accounts to either blocs or ‘unfollow’ our ex, but I think that’s a wrong move. The best thing to do after a breakup is to do nothing. Remember that you are still hurting and when you are hurting, it is likely that you will make irrational decisions. So every move you make in that circumstance, the next minute you might want to unmake them. All that back and forth makes you seem unstable, hence proving to your ex that he or she probably made the right decision.
On the other hand, sometimes it’s hard to keep off your ex after a breakup. You want to connect with them somehow. Some people do the silliest things like call their ex after they are ‘dumped’ and that’s sad. I totally advise against this. Instead, there are more subtle ways by which you can ‘beep’ your ex after a breakup.
Remember that the whole point of the beep is to let your ex know that you are doing great without them, not that you want them back. No, let them go, let it go. Anybody who could leave you because they want to doesn’t deserve to have you, at all.
However, there are ways by which you could reach out to your ex without making it so obvious. Let’s take a look at those ways. Shall we?
Get and stay in shape.
One of the things a lot of us do after breakup is, lose everything: from our sense of worth to our confidence. But I think that that is all shades of wrong. On the contrary, that is the time we need to get and keep it together at all cost. Because at that time, somebody, somewhere is probably wishing to see us suffering as much or even more than they are.
The mistake that a lot of us make is to believe that there is a thing as amiable breakup or divorce. There is no such thing. As long as there a breakup or divorce, there is heartbreak, somebody is hurting, believe that. So it is understandable for a person who is hurting to want the person who hurt them to hurt too.
Staying in shape post shape is somewhat difficult. Because at that point, you start losing interest in a lot of things that should matter to you, like eating right and working out. Depression creeps in. We start over-eating—sign of depression. Before we know it, we become as fat as a cow. Sad!
Somehow, we need to beat the odds and stay in shape. Because no matter how we try to run away from reality, whether by using food as a diversion, the reality will always be there staring us in the face; the reality being that the once bubbly love is dead. Only thing left is a game—a game of survival of the smartest.
One way to win that post breakup game is by never giving in to that depression when it comes knocking. Instead, eat right, laugh more, party hard and hit the gym. Yep, work that big booty off and get it to be as naturally perky as Rihanna’s.
Post your hottest pic on social media on their birthday.
Nothing irks us the most than to be upstaged on our own stage, no kidding.
Your birthday is YOUR day. A day you are allowed to be a little selfish and want all the attention on you and you alone. So, what a total BS it would be to have some of yours and your ex’s social media mutual friends and followers liking, sharing and reposting your ex’s hot pics and probably ignoring some of yours? Yikes!… no, ouch! Now that is the effect you will have on your ex when you post your hot pics on social media on their birthday.
Some of them with anger management issues would do the silliest thing and go on to comment crap. Hurt them the more by ignoring them. When you do this, you have completely ruined their day and at the same time reminded them of what they are missing. *wink*
PS: make sure you have done the first step—be in shape. Otherwise, don’t try this at all.
Keep your life stable, keep your friends.
It has almost become a norm for some of us to want to purge some things out of our lies including some of our friends; especially those we think are loyal to our ex. But I think that’s a mistake. Do not make those drastic changes to your life. Keep the ball rolling like nothing serious happened. That way, you make them feel like… you know. lol.
One way to do this is by keeping everything in your life stable including your mutual friends, even if they are loyal to your ex. Unless there is a good reason you must kick these people to the curb; reason like endangerment to your life.
Don’t talk bad about them.
Matter of fact, you should not talk about your ex at all even when you are tempted to do so. Because your ex definitely wants to know what you are up to and what you are saying about them. But that is not necessarily because they still care about you. Some of them just want to know how devastated you are.
Nothing could give your feelings away more than your words. But if you must talk about them, say only nice things shortly. Do not dwell too long on any matter that concerns them. make that talk short before you say something you might regret
Do the nasty, ‘like’ their new flame’s pic.
This might seem like an ass kissing tactics but it’s not, believe me. Let me remind you again that the point of this post breakup game tutorial is to teach you how to let your ex know that with or without them, the party goes on even harder. Another strategy to this is by putting up a show of indifference.
Even if your ex moves on with the sexiest woman or man in the world, don’t act like you are fazed about it. Instead, do the ‘darndiest’ thing and like their new flame’s pic on social media. Doing this will send the message that no matter what, your confidence is still a 100%.
Treat every of their action with nonchalance, not with disdain. If you must react to their actions, let your actions be casual. Act like you are having all the fun in the world even if you are not.
If they talk shit about you about you, rely with emojies.
How would you feel when you take so much of your time and energy to write a long epistle trash-talking someone, only for that person to reply you with no word but a couple of emijies? I don’t know about you but I’d feel like shit if someone did that to me. That is the plan!
The worst attack you could launch against someone is an attack on their self-esteem. Most of the time less is more and talk is cheap. Your ability to play the mind game on people and get them to feel infinitesimal could be your most useful arsenal.
Love is sweet but sometimes when it ends, it leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. But that does not mean you must be bitter.
The aim of this article is not to suggest you channel all of your post breakup energy into bringing your ex down. Some people find it difficult to move on after breakup. Especially when there are questions unanswered—no closure. You just want to get even, one way or another. I understand that because I have been there. But after taking all the steps listed above—which actually worked, I realized that the best way to get pass people is to not try to get even with them. Forgive them, forgive yourself. Because no matter how you try to spin it, the truth is that it takes two to either build a relationship or destroy it.
The best and hardest step toward healing from heartbreak is to take the blame. See it that everything that went wrong was your fault. That will make you work more on every area of your life and become the best possible you, that even your ex could never be deserving of.