7 ways to WOW the parents, on first visit.
It is no gainsay that the nervous part of every relationship is the part of meeting the parents. We all know that the parent’s blessings is very important in every relationship.
Prior to meeting your partner’s parents you ask yourself some mind bugging questions like: will they like me? Will they think me good enough for their child? Etc. It gets worse when there is a reason for your anxiety. Reasons like a disparity in religion and family background. The truth is every good parent wants the best for their child. So if you can blow them away—I mean that figuratively, especially on first meeting then trust me, they will be the ones pushing for you to be a part of their family. How else can you achieve this than assuring them via actions that their child is in capable hands?
Below are not just ways by which you can get the stamp of approval on the relationship from the parent(s) but also their admiration.
They want to get to know you—the real you. So you trying to be who you think they want you to be are not a good idea. Just as much as they want to know what their family—child, are getting into, you also want to know what you are getting into. When you show them the real you, they will show you the real them. Be honest and humbly proud about who you are and what you do. Starting off with a lie is a mistake that will turn around to bite you in the behind.
Do not show up with an expensive gift.
One weird thing about an expensive gift is that, sometimes, the only person who recognizes it as what it is—a kind gesture is the giver not the receiver. Presenting an expensive gift to your parent(s) inlaw(S) to be, on a first meeting, reeks of desperation. A bottle of wine on the dinner table, courtesy of you will suffice.
Be an early riser.
When you are spending the night or a weekend at your inlaws to be for whatever reason at all, please be an early riser. The first thing you should strive to earn from your inlaws is their respect. Being the only one in bed when everyone else is up and about is not going to earn you that.
Some parent inlaws, especially the mother, would give you the look—you know the look, and I wouldn’t blame her. Every parent wants the best for their child. A lazy person is a no…no.
Help around the house.
Your inlaws to be are your new family to be. So when you go visiting, do not be the ‘model’ guest and just sit around and watch things being done. Instead, try to participate by offering to help. There is a possibility that they would want to play the model host and politely decline your offer, still, just make the offer. They will appreciate that you did.
Learn their language if it’s different from yours.
I don’t think that this needs much explaining. We all appreciate it when somebody makes an effort to be like us. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
Do not have sex in your to be parent(S) inlaws house.
There is no exaggeration to this. It is disrespectful to get down and dirty in the sheet in their parents’ house. To avoid the temptation, sleep in different rooms. Keep your libido in check.
Do not be overly modest.
Laugh out loud occasionally. Let them know that you are real, human and having a great time.
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