The Bright Side Of The Single Life.
Most people dread the single life. To them, it’s almost a disease. We all want to make that connection with other people,especially the opposite sex. Some women would give anything to have a man they could call their own. That type of connection that forms the bedrock of any great relationship and ultimately, great marriage.
However, there are two sides to every coin. Even though being in a romantic relationship is beautiful, being single has its perks, nonetheless.
Follow as we tour the single life and see some perks that it offers.
Plan and execute
One of the things that being in a relationship entails is that you don’t ‘own’ yourself 100%. By ‘yourself’ i mean Your time and resources. That is the sad truth.
There are certain things that they just don’t want to share. But when you are single, you find yourself sharing these things because you partner to feel neglected.
Sometimes you prefer spontaneity to process. You want to go to bed at night to plan and then wake up the next morning to execute, all by yourself. But that could be a tad difficult, if not totally impossible, when you are in a relationship.
The stamp of approval of your partner on your ideas and aspirations feels like a badge of honor. A lot of people in a relationship dread not having it. But the thing is, some people are egocentric. Such people are likely to see the success of their partner as a threat to their ego. This is the reason why some men prefer a ‘dependent woman’ to a strong independent woman, because to them, her independence is a threat their control over her. Any man with this absurd mindset would rarely give his partner that approval that she desperately need. Hence, make her feel guilty if she calls his bluff and go ahead with her ambitions.
Some great ideas have been tossed aside,if not completely abandoned, because it is in conflict with what the partner wants.
On the other hand, some excellent ideas have been pruned to the bone, rendering it completely tasteless and unattractive simply because the partner demands so.
Let’s take our case study from the story of Nicole.
Nicole had dreamed all her life of becoming an actress. She finally got a opportunity to star in a movie. But she got home, told her husband and he went like:
“Oh, congratulations” he said, almost nonchalantly, before reaching for a Pen and a piece of paper.
He wrote some things and gave the note to Nicole. She read the note and alas, it was a set of malicious rules that would govern her acting career. The note read:
“You will not kiss on set”
“You will not engage in any sexual scene”
“You will not engage in a violent scene”
Thing is, this rules are great if we were eleven centuries behind. But this is the twenty first century, when sex could sell faster than a great idea– Ignore this claim if you don’t agree.
With such outrageous rules as the ones given to Nicole, her career is as good as dead unless she calls a spade a spade.
There are two types of singles: the single and celibate — highly advised, and the single but not celibate.
One aspect of our life that we need to be honest about is our sexuality. Sexual liberation and satisfaction is very important, there is no arguing that.
Truth is, some people are natural freaks. When such people find themselves in a relationship with people who have different sexual orientation or preferences, then there is a problem. What kind of a relationship can a freak have with someone who thinks that giving head is morally wrong and dirty? Such a relationship will not just turn out a flop but also a disaster.
In addition, being single gives the opportunity to get down and dirty whenever and with whomever. This is not really a Bright-side, though, because there are lots of STDS out there. But the truth is, sometimes sex could be better with a stranger–Again, disregard this claim if you don’t agree,it’s just my opinion.
There is no unwanted occupant of your space.
Some people have some set rules that they have so internalized, it’s almost a second skin. Some of those principles include a person’s work ethic. Some people have very crazy work ethic; nothing and nobody comes close to their career. They are unapologetic for the time and resources they invest into their work or career even if it’s rubbing their relationshipthe wrong way.
Also, some people are privacy personified. They don’t want you taking up too much of their space than they are used to giving; they want to go out in the morning and come back in the evening to meet their things at the exact spot where they left them– a re-positioning is an offence.
To these kinds of people, there is always a reason to draw the lines which nobody should cross. So tell me, what kind of intimate relationship can these types of people have with anyone? These types of people are better off single, believe me.
Being single is a great way to save you some things. Some relationships take a lot away from you. But sadly, in some cases, leaves you high and dry.
Some of the things you give in a relationship include:
Let’s be honest, all relationship are expensive. But unfortunately, some men find it difficult to part with their money. And most ladies won’t buy that.
Some relationships have broken because someone whose responsibility it is to provide, is not living up to that expectation.
So if you are the type of man who holds your wallet very close to your chest, wouldn’t it be better you stayed away from a relationship with the opposite sex? Because that woman you are ‘Googling’ will definitely need you to spend on her. That’s how she knows you value her time.
Our time is our most valuable asset to which we must accord as much importance as possible. I have heard some people say things like “I learned a lot” after a broken relationship. But did they really?
A girlfriend of mine who fell in love and got burned, told me that she learned when her boyfriend broke up with her to stop opening the ‘cookie Jar’ too early in her relationships.
Two months later, however, she called me out of the blue and went like this “woah… I just got back from a one week trip to Dubai with I Nasa– new boyfriend, and OMG! This guy is a stud. He almost ruptured the walls of my p***sy”.
So tell me, did this lady learn anything from her previous breakup? The sad answer is no.
No matter how well we try to spin it, every broken relationship is waste of one’s precious time.
One good that the single life can afford you is that, you won’t have to go bed at night with a broken heart or wake up in the middle of the night on a tear-soaked pillow. Some relationships can be draining both emotionally and physically.
Nothing trumps happiness and peace of mind. So if being single could save you all the drama that comes with a relationship, for instance, emotional and physical abuse, then by all means, you should want more of that single life. You need it because you need peace, we all do.
Makes you appreciate the relationships that you do have– friends and family
Oftentimes, it takes the absence of something to appreciate the presence of another thing. Sometimes it takes being single to appreciate the other relationships that matter to us, like family.
Some relationships are stressful. When the not-so-strong people find themselves in such relationships, they feel overwhelmed or consumed by it. As a result, they become disconnected from the people that should matter to them. And because they don’t want to reveal that they are not as happy as they let on,they hide from those people, mostly friends and family.
Love is a beautiful thing, but it requires a lot of work. Only the psyched people—emotionally ready, can do that work and not be overwhelmed by it.
So, if you are not that VERY READY person, then I suggest you peach your tent in the singles corner.